November 3, 2017


In an industry that's drawn to meaningless competitiveness, I've realized how important it is to stay genuinely positive. Not just for myself, but for others, too.

And what I mean by positivity in this case, is to be happy for other peoples' successes just as you would your own. I have to admit, the green monster has lurked over me a few times here and there in my career. But those were not my proudest moments. Those moments were driven by a lack of confidence and somewhat immature character. It also lead to my losing some decent people in my life. I've seen this innate need to compare amongst the crowd with a lot of girls/guys that I meet in the industry (albeit ever rarely), but it is unapologetically a downfall in self awareness. Being happy for others takes no energy. Not to say that competition in your drive is a bad thing. I guess what I'm trying to say is that a little competitiveness is healthy, but when you are in the company of those who have achieved their own milestones and goals - be genuinely happy for them, support them, and more importantly ... learn from them. The way that I see it is that when you see others have what you've always wanted or in the process of achieving, that hint of jealousy and emptiness creates an even stronger black hole that gravitates towards the more shallow feelings of self accomplishment. This leads to the question of whether I am achieving my own goals for myself or is it for that momentarily stroke on the ego for which is often short-lived? I'll do me for me and no one else. That feeling is so much more fulfilling altogether.

Pants & top: I AM GIA 
Boots: Steve Madden 
Earrings: COS but similar here

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